Q:how do you go about exposing your children to things that you value, but
that
they don't immediately understand the value of--without burning out,
giving up,
or resorting to methods that don't feel quite
right?
The biggest, most important thing to realize is
that all the exposure,
exposition and explanation in the world won't produce
interest or a sense of
value. Those things only come from within. You can't
Make someone else care
about what you care about, or learn what you want her
to learn.
That's the problem with education itself - not you, not your
kids, but education
period.
Start someplace else - how do kids learn
what they need to know if no-one is
showing them what's
important?
Kids learn because they are observant. I don't only mean
modelling, I mean the
human brain is designed to notice patterns and there
are patterns everywhere -
in speech, in social interactions, in shapes of
things, in the relationships
between physical characteristics. Some sets of
related patterns we call
"language" some we call "mathematics" some we call
"music" etc. Kids can't help
but notice those patterns and think about them
because that's what our big
convoluted brains do best.
Think about the
things you're considering valuable in terms of education -
they're Prevalent.
That's why you want your kids to know them, so they're not
lost and ignorant
and helpless. I used to worry that my kid wouldn't know
anything about
religion because I wasn't "exposing" her to it in any kind of
systematic way.
But religious and mythological ideas are very prevalent - in
books, movies,
tv shows, puppet shows, random conversations in the grocery
store. She can't
avoid learning about a dozen different religions just from
going about her
daily life, observing the patterns she sees.
In addition, kids learn
because they are full of curiosity and wonder. That's
big. It's a marvel.
Wondering is what takes people - including children - from
observation to
something else, to asking questions and looking for answers. To
trying and
finding out. Wondering is one of the reasons people push through
challenges -
climb real mountains and metaphorical ones. You can't Give someone
that kind
of motivation; it only comes from deep within. Sadly, you can take it
away,
and teaching someone who doesn't really want to be taught is a proven way
of
doing so.
how do you go about exposing your children to things that
you value
Step back from the word "children" and replace it with
"friends" - how does the
question change?
If you value something, make
it part of your life. If you value music, play
music, listen to music, dance
and sing. Invite the people you love to join you -
maybe they will. If you
value scientific thinking, think like a scientist. If
you enjoy math, play
with numbers and relationships. The catch is to live your
own values without
trying to foist them off on other people - because that's not
a very good way
of sharing what you love, and because personality matters. All
your singing
and dancing won't make your kids musicians if they're not so
inclined - but
they'll know a few things about music. If you push music at them,
they may
associate what they know with drudgery and unhappiness - and then
you've
failed and failed more utterly than if you never sang a note in
their
presence.
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